SOAP Reflection

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Welcome to everyone that has decided to join along in our bible study!  For those that don’t know, I’ll be posting a SOAP entry once a month during this devotional (although sometimes, I may decide to do more than one post).  I know Leslie has covered what SOAP journaling is but for those who would like a reminder, this is what SOAP stands for:

Scripture:  Select a verse or verses that stuck out to YOU in your reading

Observation:  What did you observe about the scripture that struck you.  This can be one sentence or a whole book.

Application:  How can you apply the observation so that it affects your life today.

Prayer:  Write out a prayer to God based on what you just learned and ask him to help you apply this truth in your life.


Please keep in mind that the SOAP entries I post apply to ME personally.  There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to this part of the study.  It’s completely up to YOU to decide which scripture speaks to you and how you interpret and apply it to YOUR life. 

With this being week two of the devotional, I had to think about which lesson I wanted to focus my study on.  For me, personally, week one really resonated with me because I place a VERY high value on friendships (which I will get into during the Observation and Application steps).

Scripture:  Ecclesiastes 4:10 “For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.  But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up.”

Observation: Like I mentioned earlier, I place a VERY high value on friendships.  To me, friends are family and I would do anything for them.  I also firmly believe that everyone comes into our lives for a reason.  They are either there to teach us something or to guide us in a new direction. 

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had people come in and out of my life but always with a purpose.  For example, the supervisor that hired me for my first banking job, Margie.  I had no experience whatsoever but she believed that everyone should be given a chance to demonstrate their capabilities.  She gave me a shot when she clearly could have gone with someone who actually had experience.  That job lead to me doing every possible position within the banking industry but most importantly I met a person who would today be one of my best friends and a key player in my grieving process (I’ll come back to that).

Of course, there is my late husband, Mike.  We were together 10 years when he died.  One thing many people don’t know is that I met him in a chatroom before they were so popular lol He lived in Kansas City and I lived in Washington state.  We fell in love and made it work.  We got married the day of my high school graduation and then the next day, I left my family in Washington to be with him in Kansas.  We bought our first how together at the age of 22 and we had two beautiful daughters.  He taught me that I am stronger than I think I am and that if I want something, I need to be the one to go for it.  Take risks for you never know where they will lead.

My sister, Nancy dropped her life in Washington to move in with me after Mike died.  Mike’s family had completely abandoned us and she stepped up.  My nephew was only 3 months old when she moved in and I will forever be grateful to her for that choice.  She helped me raise the girls and our kids are as close as siblings which is something we were dreading when she found out she was pregnant.  She was there for the girls when I couldn’t be emotionally or mentally.  I don’t think I could have done that without her.

Then there’s my supervisor, Lindsey, at my last job.  She was amazing!  She was willing to give me the chance to work in accounting within the banking industry without having any experience and she ended up showing me SO much more.  She was the type of supervisor that wanted to see me succeed, wherever my career took me.  She was the one that introduced me to the world of auditing and thanks to her, I am now an auditor, which is something I LOVE doing day in and day out.

I’ve had family be there for me but like I said, I place a high value on friendships because these are people that we CHOOSE to have in our lives.  We select them to be a part of OUR story.  Which brings me to one of my best friends, Jon.  I met him when I started working at the bank back in 2003 and we hit it off right away.  He’s the kind of friend that if I need something, anything, he would do what he could to help.  We could go months, heck! I think we even went a year without talking but when we talked again, it was like NO time had passed.  He was there for me after Mike died.  He came by and fixed anything in the house that needed fixing that I couldn’t do. 

For that summer and for my first holiday season without Mike, he called or texted almost every night just to check up on me.  He was the ONLY one that didn’t talk to me like I would break at any moment or that I would completely lose my mind.  He would make me laugh and would listen if I needed to vent.  For a long time and even still to this day, I get angry about Mike’s death.  Suicide is not something you get over so easily but Jon listened.  He didn’t need to say a word like others or give an opinion about how suicide is selfish (which I heard A LOT while grieving and it’s something you NEVER say to a grieving widow).  He’s the definition of a great friend and had I not taken that leap of moving to Kansas and applying for that banking job, I would have never met him and who knows if I would have gone through the grieving process differently.  To this day, I am glad to call him one of my best friends.

And finally, there’s Leslie  She reached out to me at a time when I first started my blog and was trying to figure out what I wanted to say.  I was trying to get back into my faith and believe in God.  I wanted a good study that would help with that and God heard me because she came out of nowhere! Lol I’ve loved the journey we’ve been on with this study and I’ve met some amazing people with amazing talent (Nicole especially!)  This study has truly been a blessing <3

I think back to so many people that have come in and out of my life but if I listed them all, I’d never end this post! Lol  The ones I spoke about have played important roles in my life and that is why I agree with the scripture.  Sure you can do things alone but why would you?  Friendships and any other relationships that you build help you in one way or another.  Sometimes is for career advancement and sometimes it’s an emotional growth you need to go through.  The point is that without relationships, you just don’t learn the lessons life is meant to teach you.

Application:  I don’t regret fully investing in my friendships because I know that it’s not always about getting something out of it.  Sometimes you’re the lesson to that person.  Be willing to meet new people and help others out.  I will continue to build friendships and meet new people because after all, isn’t that what life is about?

Prayer:  Lord, please continue to place the right people in my path that you choose for me.  Allow me to learn from them and teach them at the same time for that is how we grow.  Amen.

After reading this, did any relationships or friendships stand out to you?  If so, I’d love to hear about it!